So far as missed alternatives go, blowing off Adam Sandler is the “Massive Daddy” of all regrets for David Seth Cohen.
Cohen has spent 22 years beating himself up over a missed bro-date with Sandler — particularly after a restaurant hostess went viral for failing to acknowledge — and turning away — the “Homicide Thriller” star at a Lengthy Island IHOP in April.
“The IHOP factor is nothing,” the Brooklyn native and New Jersey transplant instructed The Put up. “She thinks she has ache? This lady didn’t let him sit at a desk. Think about passing up a drink along with your hero. I’ve been kicking myself since 1998. I by no means forgave myself.” (The hostess, by the best way, did finally get to satisfy the Sandman after placing TikTok gold.)
Flashback to November 1998: Cohen was a manufacturing assistant on the comedy traditional “Massive Daddy” when its star Sandler invited then-22-year-old Cohen to have a drink with him at his NYC condo.
Cohen was star-struck as Sandler “began messing” with him by launching into a few of his trademark goofy voices whereas making the supply.
However for Cohen, now 45, “It was a type of angel-devil moments,” he stated, as he was nonetheless working and on the clock on the time. He stated he thought of it — telling himself, “Do it, man, he’s one in every of your heroes” — however then reluctantly handed, along with his work ethic successful out.
It’s a missed alternative that has plagued the filmmaker, particularly figuring out that Sandler is famously loyal to those close to him. To contend along with his long-simmering remorse, Cohen even made a documentary in regards to the expertise, titled “Finding Sandler,” and — 15 years after beginning the movie — he nonetheless hopes for a contented ending: truly having that drink with the star.
The filmmaker is now satisfied that some one-on-one time years in the past may have modified the trajectory of his whole life.
“This was my alternative to get into the interior circle of a comedy legend,” stated Cohen. “Adam helps out folks he likes and at all times works along with his associates.”
At instances, Cohen’s ongoing self-flagellation has even been eclipsed by the scorn of his family members, who by no means let him stay down the missed alternative of a lifetime.
“My mother stated, ‘You’re an fool. What had been you pondering?’ and my 10-year-old cousin stated, ‘Somebody ought to hit you with a barstool.’ ” Cohen’s sister, a college trainer, even used the expertise as a cautionary story to her college students across the theme, “When alternative knocks, reply.” The scholars despatched a hopeful message to Cohen: “We hope you get to have that drink with Adam.”
When he turned 30 in 2006, he determined to doc his pursuit to reconnect with the “Uncut Gems” star in a movie, launching a undertaking that he hopes will give his profession the jumpstart it by no means acquired again in 98. Cohen zigzagged the nation — from New York to Los Angeles to Sandler’s native New Hampshire and his favourite joint there, the Red Arrow Diner.
However Cohen’s obsession could have ruffled some feathers alongside the best way. He claimed that Sandler’s supervisor referred to as Cohen in 2007 with a plea to rethink his undertaking.
“He acquired my quantity and principally stated, ‘I feel you need to cease manufacturing … [but] we’re not going to cease you from doing something,” Cohen stated.
When contacted by The Put up, a consultant for Sandler acknowledged that his supervisor “by no means requested him to cease manufacturing on his undertaking.” Nonetheless, Cohen insisted that dialog did occur.
So far as jump-starting a get-together with Sandler, Cohen solely envisioned an off-the-cuff assembly — involving, say, hoodies, sweatpants and a few Budweisers. However he even tried to sweeten the deal, aiming to make it “the best drinks ever.” At separate occasions in 2006, he approached celeb chef Emeril Lagasse about making them appetizers and Billy Joel about serenading them on piano — with each requests captured on movie for the documentary — to no avail.
The long-ago missed alternative even haunted Cohen’s courting life. In 2019, his Hinge profile famous that blowing off Sandler was his greatest remorse in life. Cohen acquired married final 12 months, however the first time his now-wife wrote to her future husband on Hinge, she wrote: “I can’t consider you handed up a drink with Adam Sandler!”
Whereas Sandler’s workforce has been “ducking” him for 15 years, Cohen stated he is able to settle for no matter destiny brings him. He’s procuring “Discovering Sandler” on the movie pageant circuit, however he isn’t holding his breath for a fairytale Hollywood ending — with the pair lastly clinking glasses.
“He’s Goliath and I’m simply David,” he stated.